Must Have Tips for Engaged Brides

Hey gals! I wanted to reach out and give you some tips, that I myself wish I would have had when I was planning my wedding a year ago! As a recent bride, and now a wedding consultant, there are some patterns that I’ve witnessed, and I know that if I would have read these tips, I would have rethought my planning process, at least a little bit. These are tips that I have been putting together since before I said ‘I Do’, and I suggest them to any bride, and groom too, so that their planning process is stress free, and truly wonderful.

1. Your Engagement

After the proposal, most couples immediately hop over to family to celebrate the exciting news, or post right away to facebook and twitter. But sometimes, there are things that don’t need to be celebrated immediately, like a proposal. Spend some time with your fiance, and keep your engagement a secret for the weekend or a week or two. This time together is rare and you both need the time to soak up the excitement yourselves before the chaos begins. When you keep things under wraps for a few days, this gives you both the chance to discuss dates, dreams, and your wedding party. You know that awesome pin you saw on Pinterest with the Bridesmaid proposal gift? You won’t be able to do that if you’re telling everyone right away. Yes it’s exciting, and your adrenaline is pumping and you just want to share with the world how happy you are and how much in love you are! Just wait, I promise it will be worth every minute of it. Celebrate your engagement, just the two of you!

2. Length of planning

Planning a wedding can take a lot of time and energy out of the bride, and often even the groom too. Working a full time job, or going to school, all while planning a wedding, is no easy task. So, having a lengthy engagement full of planning, puts stress on your relationship as a couple. Some couples decide on having a two-year engagement, for reasons like saving up, and soaking up that special time together. However, two years can be an extremely LONG time. I know! My husband and I immediately booked everything up front and began making payments. Then we were constantly changing things, because over time, our ideas were evolving. In retrospect, most couples only need about eight months, to accomplish everything for their dream wedding. If you decide that it would be better for you to get married after a number years of being engaged from a financial standpoint, don’t start planning until one year before your wedding. Most couples think that spreading it out for a few years will relieve the stress, but that is far from what actually happens. Keep your engagement short, under a year, and you’ll be happy you did.

3. All the Little Details, are in fact little

They really aren’t the most important part of your wedding. Often Brides obsess over the details and forget quickly the reason why they are having the wedding in the first place. I did exactly that. I was in wedding mode 24/7 for 2 years, and the little details seemed so important to me. When I was finally getting dressed to walk down the aisle, those little things disappeared, and they were no longer relevant to my marriage. It’s not all about the linen color, or the specialty drinks. Only you will remember if you had peonies in your bridal bouquet, and that the program was ivory and not white. These things are just not important. A wedding is about celebrating the LOVE that you and your groom have, and to celebrate the beginning of a new chapter in your life. Marriage.

If you’re laying in bed thinking about all things wedding, that’s not too healthy. Clear your mind, and quit stressing. Your planning will pay off, but no one will ever care as much about your wedding as you do. Snap out of the obsessive, compulsive behavior, and LIVE your life with your groom.

4. Get accustomed to CHANGE

No, not the coin change, the change of plans. When you get engaged, you have a dream, but your dream will change. It may not change significantly, but it will notably evolve. You’ll find that budget may deter you from your exact vision, but it won’t hinder your overall dream. You don’t need to decide every aspect of your wedding right away, you have time to think about it and then arrange it. Your vision will transform with the help of a wedding planner, and you will find inspiration on websites, like pinterest, and when you visit with vendors and attend other weddings. You’ll think of new ideas, and ditch some of the old. Just go with the flow, and take things as they come. Change is good.

5. It’s YOUR day

The only two opinions that matter are yours and your future hubby’s. Yes, even if your parents are paying. You may need to listen more to your parents, but block out advice that others are dying to give you, and aim to please NO ONE, but yourself and your groom. Console with a wedding planner who will help you along the way. Don’t fear her, she won’t control you. She’ll be there when your mom isn’t agreeing on the floral arrangements, and she’ll tell you to stick to what you want, regardless of what your mom says. Trust your instincts, they need to lead the way. You will have a beautiful wedding that reflects the love you and your groom share. Advice from others is rampant at this time, so kindly listen, but tread lightly when hearing it!

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